Why don't we talk today about the secular ceremony? It is becoming more and more democratized for different reasons, so I think it is important to tell you a little more about this ceremony that allows non-believers, lovers of different religions or lovers that religion cannot unite , to have an equally beautiful wedding ceremony, full of symbols and values that resembles them.
Choosing the secular ceremony means deciding to unite by highlighting your couple, its strengths, its values and its history. Free of any religion, it puts your union at the center of this moment and, as I like to say, allows you to do "whatever you want"! There are obviously some basic elements but you are quite free to take only some and not others, to do a ritual instead of two, to exchange your vows orally or not to do so… The principle of the secular ceremony is to have a ceremony in your image!
So, what's in all this, what's in a secular ceremony?
- The officiant:
This is the person who will officiate your secular ceremony. It can be a man or a woman, it can be professional or it can be one of your loved ones in whom you trust enough to animate and officiate this important moment. The person who officiates must be able to feel comfortable in public, know how to write and be a good speaker to create a real bespoke ceremony for you. Whether it's a loved one or you're calling on a professional, remember that feeling and trust are two important elements in choosing your officiant.
These are the people you would like to see come in to give a speech during your ceremony. It may be your witnesses, your bridesmaids, your parents, your friends, close people who know you, and who would be happy to write you a nice note for this exceptional day! And while at first glance being a speaker can sometimes be a little scary in writing a speech and reading it to all your guests, think about explaining to them why you ask them to do so, how important they are in your life. Finally, as far as stakeholders are concerned, they may intervene alone, as a duo or as a group.
There are two kinds of rituals, the couple ritual that is done only in pairs (or with your children if you want to include them) and the collective ritual that takes place with some or all of your guests. Regarding rituals, your officiant can give you some ideas, and maybe even create a custom one with you, but first, you can already find out from your Wedding Planner or on the internet about those that exist.
- The exchange of vows and alliances
This is one of the most anticipated moments during a secular ceremony: the exchange of vows of the bride and groom! It is a text that each of you writes personally and exchanges orally during the secular ceremony. It is a statement that can be moving, humorous, offbeat, (…) in short, it is what you want it to be!
You now know a little more about the secular ceremony and the different elements that make up this way of saying "yes". Don't hesitate to contact your Wedding Planner so that they can offer you professional officiants, meet them and make a first appointment to get an even more precise idea!
And you know the secular ceremony? Would you like to get married and say "yes" in a secular ceremony? And if your wedding has already taken place, tell us in commentary your ceremony!